Laid-Back Homeschooling

I’m not quite ready to retire to a rocking chair in front of the general store, bending the ear of hapless passers-by: “Yessir, it was rough back in them early homeschoolin’ days . . .”  But still, it’s fun to off-handedly mention that when I started homeschooling, way back in 1985, neither A Beka nor Bob Jones would sell directly to parents.  You had to either order through a Christian school or pick them up second-hand.  The only other comprehensive curriculum choice was Rod and Staff.  Alpha Omega was just around the corner, Saxon Math was yet burning in John Saxon’s heart, and the Cambrian explosion of parent-generated curriculum was set to go off in the next ten years.

In the meantime, what to do?  John Holt whispered in one ear that the kids could be trusted to dictate their own education, but John and I didn’t share the same views on total depravity.  Somebody told me that a small independent bookstore (operated by the John Birch Society, in fact) had acquired a stock of new A Beka textbooks from a Christian school that went under, and it was all for sale.  Down I went to Portland, Oregon, and bought everything I needed for a first- and third-grader.  I’d taken the kids out of a classroom situation, and immediately plugged them into a classroom model.

Classrooms are all most of us know, and it usually takes a year or two to let go of them.  Having books for every school subject felt good for about two days into our actual school experience, and after that it was a continual (and failing) struggle to work everything in during the allotted time while keeping it fun and interesting.  Meanwhile I was re-reading the Raymond & Dorothy Moore books that had attracted me to homeschooling in the first place: Home-Grown Kids, Home-Spun Schools, and Better Late Than Early.  The Moores took the view, which they claimed was backed by extensive scientific research, that children are pushed into formal schooling too early.  If parents would only wait until age ten or even twelve to start textbooks and lessons, the children soon catch up and even surpass their public-school peers without the classroom fatigue that’s already set in among the average fourth-grader.

Maybe it’s because they got to me first, but this attitude always made sense to me.  It might have been a generational thing, too: my ex-hippie pals and I had crawled out of the sixties with our brains still intact (or mostly).  We invented laid-back, man.  Once the shock of transition from school to home had worn off a little, I was able to start dismantling the hasty textbook structure in favor of a more casual approach.

A coordinated pushback against the Moores began in the early 90s, with rival gurus claiming that kids needed to be introduced to academic structures while their little brains were still eager and pliable.  I’m sure there’s justification for that approach, and I don’t agree with the Moores on everything (such as their opinion that fiction is a waste of time).  The beauty of homeschooling is that every family can decide what works best for them: early or late, traditional schooling or un-, Trivium, unit study, Charlotte Mason, etc.  With so many philosophies and so much material out there, the only thing I’m sure of is that heading straight for the test-and-textbook model ought to be outlawed.  That said, here’s my vote for “Laid-back schooling,” which falls somewhere between Raymond Moore and Charlotte Mason.

I resist giving rules for laid-back schooling (you want rules, try Moses).  So let’s just call them “guidelines.”  In no particular order, these might be 1) Enjoy your kids.  2) Include them in your daily routine as much as possible.  3) Teach them to read.  4)  Read to them.  5) Talk to them about what you all read, and about current events, interesting news stories, scientific discoveries, family conflicts and dilemmas, biblical principles and controversies, etc.  6) Encourage them to talk to you about the same.  7) Start noticing what they’re good at.  8) Encourage and facilitate what they’re good at.  9) Memorize poems and Bible verses.  10) Ditch the TV; limit computer time.

The educational goal of the first 3-4 years of school is to build a bridge between learning and life.  (Remember that bird we saw this morning? Here’s a picture of a blue bunting—do you think that’s what it was?)  Life is learning, but you wouldn’t guess that from the average neighborhood school, where masses of children migrate from room to room at the ringing of a bell and study “subjects” by the clock.  They do learn, but they don’t necessarily learn the point or purpose of anything, except to pass some test.  I agree with John Holt that children love to learn, and they’ll continue loving it if it hands them tools to use, conclusions to draw, or just things to think about all day long.  A house full of all kinds of books, with maps on the wall and binoculars in the closet and a dictionary on the reference shelf and tools and art supplies close at hand will facilitate the bridge-building.  (Speaking of Egypt, here it is on the map.  What’s close by?  Have you heard of any of those other countries?)  The great failure of public school is to divorce learning from life, shutting the former up in a boxlike building with noisy halls and cluttered bulletin boards.  It’s not the teachers’ fault; it’s just the nature of the beast.

In addition to bridges, kids are also building compartments in the brain to hold all that cool stuff they learn in the future.  To progress in math, they’ll need to get the basic functions down cold: addition, subtraction, multiplication, division.  To understand science, they need hands-on interaction with the physical world: the garden and the nature walk.  To comprehend history, they start where they are: personal timelines branching out to family trees; historical fiction opening the door to historical eras.  I like the image of shelves: all knowledge is related, but it also falls into orders and categories.  With sturdy mental shelves, a third-grader will have a head start (pun intended) on organizing and storing all that future information.

So to parents of primary schoolers, I say, Don’t sweat it.  They’ll need more structure and academic discipline as they get older, but for the early grades (say, K-3) an hour a day of “school” (not counting free-reading time) is plenty.  Ruth Beechick’s Easy Start books provided an outline for us early laid-backs in the 1980s; I suspect it’s still good for today.  Your home is school; life is school; remember that, and don’t feel guilty that pages 79-83 in the workbook remain blank or the last chapter in the science book remains uncovered.  Make cupcakes instead: So, if we want to double this recipe, how much baking soda do we need?  How long will they last if everybody eats one and a half per day?

It’s summertime.  Enjoy your kids, and don’t stop learning!

On a slightly more somber note, see my reflections on homeschool “success” and “failure” in The Graduate.  Regarding that multi-armed beast, curriculum: last summer I talked about my laid-back approach to teaching composition.  In the near future, I’ll lay back on grammar!

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8 Responses to Laid-Back Homeschooling

  1. Megan May 29, 2012 at 7:20 am #

    Oh, thank you so much!! I love using My Father’s World curriculum, but I’m realizing that since my five-year-old is already beginning to read, he DOESN’T need to do worksheet pages that review letter sounds! :-) Far more important to read books about the unit topic and do the fun activities. I grew up in a large family where batches of cookies always had to be quintupled (what is five times 3/4 cup?), so I love multiplying fractions. Thanks for helping settle my mind!

  2. Connie May 23, 2012 at 11:12 am #

    Here are my two “rules” 1. Never ever compare myself to other homeschool moms or my kids to other homeschool kids. 2. Focus on the heart not performance. Hmmm…that kind of sounds like lots of grace.

    Amazing what happens when Christ is preeminent…

  3. Todd May 22, 2012 at 9:03 pm #

    My wife is going to love this. She put soooo much pressure on herself! Thanks for sharing your experience! We’ll be reading faithfully!

  4. Emily May 22, 2012 at 7:45 pm #

    Oh, and that picture is too funny. Great find.

  5. Emily May 22, 2012 at 7:11 pm #

    Thank you so much for this post. I’m going to read it once a week.


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